What Not to Say When There is Nothing to Say

This is a must read for all us who wish to offer words of comfort.

A Generous Helping

Recently, I was asked for advice about how to respond to the parents of a child diagnosed with cancer. Let me say from the outset that I am a dubious source whose council typically causes some manner of regret. However, since I have stood on the receiving end of some pretty stupid comments over the past year, I do have a fair amount of expertise in this particular area.

First, THERE ARE NO MAGIC WORDS, so don’t try to find them. When one is standing at the outset of a long, twisted road that includes the potential mortality of their child, words simply cannot soothe. They can, however, aggravate. So I thought it might be helpful to look at some things that struck us the wrong way when we were facing our crisis.

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1. Do not equate anything you’ve gone through (or had a third cousin go through) with their…

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