What Not to Say When There is Nothing to Say

This is a must read for all us who wish to offer words of comfort.

A Generous Helping

Recently, I was asked for advice about how to respond to the parents of a child diagnosed with cancer. Let me say from the outset that I am a dubious source whose council typically causes some manner of regret. However, since I have stood on the receiving end of some pretty stupid comments over the past year, I do have a fair amount of expertise in this particular area.

First, THERE ARE NO MAGIC WORDS, so don’t try to find them. When one is standing at the outset of a long, twisted road that includes the potential mortality of their child, words simply cannot soothe. They can, however, aggravate. So I thought it might be helpful to look at some things that struck us the wrong way when we were facing our crisis.


1. Do not equate anything you’ve gone through (or had a third cousin go through) with their…

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